February 8, 2021
By: Marsena E.
Roses are red
Violets are blue
Rosé is a sweet
Ready to brew...
This is the kind of tea you drink during a bubble bath, listening to By Your Side by Sade.
And with Valentine’s Day around the corner, you can set the mood with your bae or by yourself.
Celebrating the 14th, may look different for you and your partner because of this lingering pandemic. Or you may be newly single this time around and will be spending the time alone.
Whatever your status, keep in mind that commemorating love should be an everyday practice. We’ve all heard it before that Love should begin with self. But the journey to self love can sometimes be convoluted. I believe it’s best to explore the concept of what love is.
Love is patient and kind. Love is not jealous or boastful or proud or rude. It does not demand its own way. It is not irritable, and it keeps no record of being wronged. It does not rejoice about injustice but rejoices whenever the truth wins out. Love never gives up, never loses faith, is always hopeful, and endures through every circumstance.
This is taken from biblical context but I believe the definition is universal. Outside of expecting love from a partner, it is imperative to be patient and kind with yourself. Take me for example, as a grad student working full time, I have to be patient with myself and this taxing journey. I have to be kind to myself and not compare myself to the accomplishments of others.
Love does not demand its own way. As I am evolving on this self love quest, I am very much selfish. I’m not going to hold you on that, but I’m selfish in a good way. When it comes to my time, energy, and emotional well-being I have to move with intentionality. I view not demanding my own way in terms of not allowing past triggers to stifle new relationships whether it’s platonic or intimate.
Love is not irritable and it keeps no record of being wronged. This goes in tandem with being kind to yourself. As a flawed human being mistakes are inevitable. Being irritable and holding yourself captive to those mistakes makes it hard to move forward. It also makes it hard to love others who make mistakes.
Love does not rejoice about injustice but rejoices whenever the truth wins out. Rejoicing in injustices is to hate as rejoicing in truth is to love. As an individual, where do you stand?
Love never gives up, never loses faith, is always hopeful, and endures through every circumstance. Try not to give up on yourself or your journey. Always remain hopeful in pursuing your desires, whether you have someone to by your side or not. Life’s detours are inevitable and you never know who’s path you’ll cross on your voyage.
I would also like to give a disclaimer : I’m not saying that no one will love you if you don’t love yourself or you won’t find love because you don’t love yourself. Everyone is deserving of love! But whether you’re exploring love alone or with someone else, putting in the work to maintain a healthy love is important.
Marsena is a part time blogger who finds comfort in expressing herself through her personal style. Her writings are a reflection of intimate experiences that she hopes readers can relate to and find solace in knowing they’re not alone.